Your High Priestess and Your Empress Archetypes – Are Both Their Needs Being Met?
Introducing Julie Marie Rahm, certified YUEN Mastery Practitioner and Instructor
Julie Marie Rahm, the Resultant, is a certified YUEN Mastery practitioner and instructor.
This week’s Guest Blog by Julie Marie Rahm, the Resultant, gives us insight on how to regain our center when we’ve over-extended ourselves by nurturing and caring for others.
Julie applies YUEN Mastery, the New Science of Achieving Immediate Results; a blend of insight and logic with a dash of quantum physics. The bottom line – if you’re ready to be free of stress and pain, if you’re ready for self-mastery, if you’re ready to know what’s really going on in the world, then read her articles or schedule a one-on-one results-guaranteed telephone consultation with Julie.
Note from Alay’nya: Curious about the Yuen Method? I was. And I had my own consultation with Julie just yesterday. Learn more about this method in this week’s post from the Alay’nya Studio (look for the link two days from now, Thursday, Jan. 30th), and in next week’s blogpost here in The Unveiling Journey. (I’ll put the link in when I write next week’s post.)
It’s been less than twenty-four hours, and I can already feel the life-changing difference!
Our Inner Empress – Feeling Good through Helping Others Feel Good
We’ve just come out of the Season of the Empress. She was our dominant energy from Samhain (October 31st) to Winter Solstice (December 21st).
Our Empress Archetype Is All About Connecting and Nurturing.
The Empress – Major Arcana Card III – from the Touchstone Tarot by Kat Black.
When in our Empress mode, we’re under the sway of the powerful neurohormone oxytocin.
As beautifully described by Dr. Shelley Taylor in The Tending Instinct, oxytocin makes us seek out and find pleasure in the warmth of human connection.
When we are pregnant and mothers of young children, we are awash in oxytocin, and it governs much of what we do until our children leave home and menopause arrives. (Usually, these two events more-or-less coincide, and check out Dr. Louann Brizendine’s book, The Female Brain.)
Our Empress Archetype Causes Us to Bond with Animals
We get a surge of oxytocin, a feel-good neurohormone, from playing with warm, furry animals. Photo courtesy Sciencephotos.com.
If we are not maternal – by nature or by life-role – we often nurture animals. Nothing like cuddling up with our pet cat, or romping with our dog, to release a good oxytocin surge into our brains – helping us feel calmer, more soothed, and more happy with life. Meg Daley Olmert describes how oxytocin helps the human-animal bond in Made for Each Other: The Biology of the Human-Animal Bond.
Obviously, both men and women access the Empress archetype – think of the many men who are devoted fathers, or whose lives involve caring for people and animals. It’s the same neurohormone that gives all of us satisfaction in the human-human or human-animal bond.
Our Empress Governs the Biggest Feast-Days and Holidays of the Year
In our Empress mode, we get satisfaction from nurturing others – particularly during holiday feasts!
It’s no coincidence that our Empress time encompasses the two biggest feasting, family, human-warmth-and-connection times of the year – Thanksgiving and Christmas.
But what happens when our Empress is overextended?
This can happen so, so easily.
Our Empress is about caring; not about setting boundaries. Thus, when someone needs her, she often responds without saying, No, I need time for myself right now.
Sometimes, there’s a crisis during the holidays and people need more time than expected.
Sometimes, there’s too much travel; too many demands on our time.
Sometimes, people come to visit – and stay longer than expected, or we have the lovely misfortune of living someplace where everyone wants to visit us over the holidays!
At the end of this time – special though it was – we need time for ourselves.
Our Inner High Priestess – Intuitive and Contemplative
The High Priestess, depicted by Mari-Na.
Our inner High Priestess is all about regrouping.
During the darkest time of winter, she’s about staying in bed for an extra hour or so each day.
Instead of focusing on the needs and wants of others, our High Priestess wants to not focus at all.
Our inner High Priestess wants to drift in a quiet, calm, contemplative space – and being forced to focus on anyone, or anything, is painful to this aspect of our psyche.
After being an Empress (sometimes for too long), we need our High Priestess to recharge.
Did you get your High Priestess time this year?
If you’re a little low on your High Priestess, you can still nurture her – and thus nurture your whole self.
Read this Guest Post from Julie Rahm to find out how.
Instant Rejuvenation for Generation Empress – Guest Post from Julie Marie Rahm, aka The Resultant
Forget about being a Baby Boomer. Aren’t we in fact the Sandwich Generation, caught in the middle?
Our adult offspring have boomeranged back home. Also, our aging parents need daily attention. Thus, perhaps an even more fitting title for our generation of women is Generation Empress.
If you are like me, you find yourself for months on end in full-throttle Empress mode, caring for and nurturing family, friends, clients.
Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy my family, friends, and clients. However, spending all of our time in Empress mode causes us to stagnate in body, mind, and spirit. Flow stops and unevenness sets in between others and us. Where there is unevenness, there is struggle. Struggle leads to reactions of anger and frustration.
What’s an Empress to do? Read on.
First, restore flow and thus rejuvenate by investing at least five minutes in contemplative High Priestess mode every day.
How? I recommend awakening five minutes earlier than usual. Sit in bed with the lights out. Imagine your day unfolding perfectly to your design. Most others are still asleep, so you can connect without static to the Universe and the Universe can connect back to you, supporting your design.
Then, strengthen yourself for your day.
How? Imagine a bright point of light moving quickly up and down from the crown of your head through your spine to the bottom of your tailbone. Run the light up and down eight times while saying to yourself “strengthen and delete.” Throughout the day, “run the light” any time you need a boost!
As you incorporate those first five minutes into each day, be willing to be amazed.
Expect to feel stronger and be happier.
My clients from ages eight to eighty agree that “running the light” daily is life changing. May it be for you, too!
Does Your Inner Empress Need to Recharge? (Ask Julie!)
Julie Marie Rahm, M.S., is a Resultant who resolves problems for individuals, families, schools, organizations, and businesses. How? She applies YUEN Mastery, the New Science of Immediate Results; a blend of insight and logic with a dash of quantum physics.
Julie is a certified YUEN Mastery practitioner and instructor. She earned her B.S. in physics and mathematics at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln, and her M.S. in industrial engineering at Georgia Tech. She worked for the U.S. Navy and Department of Defense for 20 years before applying physics and engineering to the human body and the human condition. Find her online at Problems-Resolved.com.
I like the title “Resultant”. Like, a Consultant who gets Results? (Also, like in geometry: combining the forces of two other directions.) I created the title Felicitator for myself – one who makes things Happy. Everyone should choose a title, it is like a one-word Mission Statement.
Energy tools are powerful. There is never any hurry.
One thing I wonder is what if your Empress is not getting enough interaction with others? In the grocery store I see children in the carts, but where do I go to buy a family? Or friends? Many people are alone, as God said this is “not good”. Where is the Empress unemployment office?
Thank you both for the lovely insights!
You’re making a really good point, Felicitator Zulaikha! (Actually, several good points.)
I love your analogy to geometry – and its actually to physics, combining forces – which lets us start to think about how to combine forces to best advantage.
Being a “Felicitator” is such a joyous role that you’ve created; I adore it! And you’re right, having a one-word Mission Statement is incredibly powerful – being a “Felicitator” connotes so much more than, say, “Director of Human Resources.” What you’ve chosen is really results-oriented – it shows people the endpoint, and that’s great!
So on to Empress … you seem like such a warm person. It’s hard to imagine that you don’t have enough Empress in your life. But this does happen. My friend Julie (the “Resultant”) started volunteering to work with children in a local school. (I’ll ask her to chime in on this.) I’ve typically taught dance, and over time, there have always been some young women who have gravitated towards me whose mothers were either deceased or emotionally unavailable.
I have confidence that you, likewise, will draw people to yourself – because you’re expressing this desire in a clear way, and because you want to be of service.
The best advice I can offer is to put yourself in an environment where there are the kinds of people with whom you’d like to connect. This doesn’t mean that your deep connects will come from that environment; it DOES mean that you’re sending a strong signal to the Universe about what you’d like more of in your life. Find a way to volunteer, or teach, or be part of a group somehow – concentrating on the age-range that appeals to you the most. Does this help? Let me know – yours – Alay’nya
P.S. – Empressing is such a strong and caring role – and there is so much need for it in this world – I am confident that your desire will be fulfilled to overflowing, very soon!