Monthly Archives: September 2013

Inner Stillness Leads to Your Palace of Pleasure

The Pathway to Your Pleasure-Goddess Hathor Lies in Finding Your Inner Quiet Core

Are you ready to break the chains?

Are you ready to break the chains?

Are you feeling that your life is run – much too much – by your commitments and your “to-do” list?

Are you seeking to bring more pleasure into your life?

Are you actually desiring to reframe your entire life so that pleasure is at your center and your core?

In short, are you ready to start making you your own top priority? Not your job. Not your husband or significant other. Not your family (could be parents, could be the kids).

Not even fitting into your own earlier expectations for yourself.

These are ones that you may have carved out for yourself much earlier, and now find to be way too much of a straightjacket.

In short, are you ready to bust loose? To find freedom? To discover and embrace who you really are?

Welcome to the club, dearest one.

Pioneers in Pleasure

One of the strongest advocates for women finding their own pathway to pleasure these days is Regena Thomaschauer, aka Mama Gena. An early interview with her, for Glamour magazine, cited some of Mama’s suggested reading. Among these were a book by Dr. Stella Resnick, The Pleasure Zone: Why We Resist Good Feelings and How to Let Go and Be Happy.

Naturally, I did what you would do: I jumped into the book using Amazon’s Look Inside feature. And I found the most fascinating little vignette:

At that point, I felt I couldn’t just go back to my hectic life in San Francisco. It was time to confront my pain and loneliness and discover what was keeping me so unhappy. A month after my mother’s death, I moved to Mount Tremper, New York, a town int he Catskill Mountainst near Woodstock. The few people I know ther had summerhomes, and in winter they came jp only for an occasional weekend. I found a small house surrounded by woods, without a TV, and signed a lease for a year.

I spent that year in the country more alone than ever before – bht this time it was a chosen solitude. For guidance, I read Henry David Thoreau’s Walden…

At first, my days were terribly lonely. I cried a lot and felt sorry for myself. I read, wrote in my journal, and took long walks in the woods… In winter, I chopped kindling to feed the fires in the two potbellied stoves and fireplace that kept me from freezing.

What I began to discover during those endless days was how little I knew about how to be happy on a daily basis. I knew how to drive myself to succeed. I knew how to criticize myself … But I didn’t know how to take on a day and enjoy it…

Finally … I had a flash of insight… It isn’t enough to know what you are doing wrong, you have to know how to do it right…

I had no role models of happiness… I knew how to have a good time and to distract myself … with external pleasures… I could relish being admired by others and indulge myself in a material success … But I didn’t know how to get off my own case and relax, to enjoy the inner pleasures of a quiet mind and ease within my body.

So that becamse my grand revelation, what I had intuitively placed myself in exile to learn. I had not come to figure out what was wrong with me… I had come to experiment with how to do things differently. More than that, I had come to discover what was truly right with me.

One of the first actions I took was to turn all the clocks toward the wall and to tape over the clock on the stove. Even though I was completely alone, I still found myself fixated on time – what time to wake up, when to eat a meal, how much time was left in the day, and how late I was staying up. I realized I was uncomfortable with open-ended time.

It was hard at first, but I came to appreciate the freedom in the open space… When I released myself from the tyranny of time, I became more attuned to my own natural rhythms … If there was a choice … I saw how easy it was for me to be hard on myself. More and more I began to choose kindness. [pp. 7 – 10, The Pleasure Zone, by Dr. Stella Resnick]

Here we have it – one of the most essential keys to finding our true sense of inner pleasure.

It’s not necessarily the physical things – the special objects that we crave, or being pampered at a spa, or going out and having fun. These are all good, and way too often, we are pleasure-deprived.

So please – bear with me on this.

By all means, we should go for that which makes us feel good, and sometimes, that is pure, sheer fun, or physical sensation.

But there is this deeper level within ourselves, and our true sense of pleasure is embedded in this more internal core.

What Keeps Us from Our Pleasure Zone?

Dr. Resnick writes about how, at first, she had to deal with massive waves of negative self-talk. She had to penetrate these before she could find her inner self.

So very often, as soon as we start to unwrap the very tight constraints that we put on ourselves, the first thing that happens is that all of our internal self-talk gets very, very loud.

It’s hard to turn this off. Zen masters and yogis spend years in meditation, just trying to bring the internal noise level down. So should we expect it to be easy? Of course not!

But we can get through it.

Dr. Resnick got through it much like putting herself into a “mindfulness boot-camp” for a year. No distractions. No TV, no Twitter. Just herself and a lot of hard work; chopping enough wood to feed the stoves through the long winter nights.

Brutal, but effective.

Most of us won’t take a year off. (In next week’s post, though, I’ll take us through another story of a woman who did.)

What we can do is start to notice how we fill our lives with distractions in order to put a lid on the noise of our self-talk.

That’s it.

The most important thing that keeps us from having more pleasure in our lives is that our self-talk is so negative, we’d rather be under huge pressures and horrible deadlines; we’d rather listen to any banality on TV, or trace through jungles of Facebook links, that be quiet inside.

The Turning Point

The most telling point in Dr. Resnick’s story was when she turned all the clocks to the wall and taped over the clock on the stove.

Do you know what she did with this one, final, extreme act?

She called in her High Priestess archetype, in a major and extreme way.

This was an act of extreme courage.

It may not have seemed like this to her at the time. It may have seemed like the only thing that she could do – to start knowing herself aside from the superimposed mind-chatter. It may have seemed like an act of desperation – something that only the soul in its extreme state would do.

But it worked.

From this point on, she began to know herself.

This tells us something that we all need to learn.

In order to access our inner Hathor, our inner pleasure-goddess, we first need to bring an extreme interrupt-signal to our mind-chatter. This includes self-judgments and expectations, as well as the constant vying of our other archetypes (most often our inner Emperor and Magician) who insist that survival depends on action.

Who Is Our High Priestess, and How Does She Help Us?

In order to understand our inner High Priestess, it helps us to review our masculine archetypes. After all (writing to you in late September), we’ve just been through two quarters dominated by masculine “energies” – Spring (the metaphysical Season of Air), and Summer (the metaphysical Season of Fire). So, for the past six months, our studies (and sometimes our lives) have been dominated by masculine archetypes.

By definition, all of the masculine archetypes are – using the Jungian framework – very goal-oriented. Some are more so than others. Our Green Man, for instance, may set hiking to the top of the next hill as a goal. Our Magician and our Emperor, however, are extremely and dominantly goal-oriented.

Our society reinforces the value of our Magician and Emperor archetypes. Thus, not only do we have them – as “inner voices” – telling us that they and their needs are important; they should be in charge – but all the messages that we get about success and survival reinforce that we should be in Magician or Emperor modes as much as possible. (Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In is just one such recent example.)

But if we’re focused on Leaning In, then we’re not giving ourselves permission to step back, are we?

When we Lean In, we’re putting our Amazon archetype (our bundle of the four masculine archetypes) in the forefront.

And yes, whenever we get an Amazon in the room, she tends to take over, right?

It’s much more difficult – it takes almost an extreme situation – to get our Amazon to release control, and to let our High Priestess have a moment.

Because our Amazon is a bundle of all our masculine archetypes (and we women use this sometimes just for simplicity, not for accuracy), she is – like the masculine archetypes themselves – very goal-driven.

All the masculine archetypes are Judging. They like to come to closure. They like to cross things off the list. “On schedule, on budget,” is their creed.

In contrast, our feminine archetypes are Perceiving, rather than Judging. They are by nature open-ended. One thought or connection leads to another, which leads to another.

Authors Bill and Pam Farrell expresses this by saying, Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti. (See the Farrell’s Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti YouTube vid, and for an absolutely hilarious vid on this subject, click on What Attracts Men the Most About Women.

The masculine archetypes tend to focus in.

The feminine archetypes tend to expand out.

When we invoke a feminine archetype – in any form – our minds go into Perceiving mode. Our thoughts spread outward like ripples on an a lake.

If we’re in Empress mode (and we will be, in just five more weeks), we think about people and animals and their needs. Thoughts about one person lead to thoughts about another. Our lives fill up with caretaking and nurturing.

When we’re in Hestia mode (a less feeling, and more thinking, mode), our thoughts are about maintaining our homes. One task or chore leads to the next. “A woman’s work is never done.” It’s not so much that we’re task or closure-driven, it’s that one small task leads to the next, which leads to the next one.

When we’re in pleasure-seeking Hathor mode (as is our desire right now; we’re getting there), one pleasure opens the door for the next.

When we’re in High Priestess mode – if we’re successful in shutting down our internal noise – we have a more diffuse awareness that extends out from ourselves. We don’t try to chase down thoughts. Instead, we begin to notice what emerges from within.

And this becomes our real source of pleasure. We begin to notice that which truly speaks to us.

As expressed in the Latin American folksong Guantanamera,

The little streams of the mountains
Please me more than the sea

Men as well as women need to invoke their High Priestess, and they do. (Read a lovely interview with William O’Shaughnessy, who reflects on that line from Guantanamera.)

Taking This Home

So – the abstract concepts of Hathor and High Priestess – what do they mean to us in our day-to-day lives?

Starting now, and for the coming six months, we’re exploring our feminine archetypes. Right now, we’re entering into our Hathor mode – we’re opening ourselves to pleasure, in all its forms.

Soon, just in time for Thanksgiving and the Christmas/Hanukah/Solstice holidays, we’ll be focusing on nurturing those who are close to us – and even extending love and kindness to strangers. This will be our Empress time.

With holiday festivities over, we go into the deeper, quieter, and most introspective time of the year – our High Priestess time. And just as we feel like moving about again, we’ll engage our inner Hestia – goddess of hearth and home – as we start spring cleaning.

We don’t have to wait until January to invoke our High Priestess, though. Not when we need her tranquil presence to help us discern that which we truly desire, versus that which we feel we should desire.

Thus, as we seek the pathway to pleasure in our lives, we can begin with High Priestess-type actions.

We can go for a walk. (Julie Cameron describes this as an Artist’s Walk in her book, The Vein of Gold.)

We can journal. (Julia refers to this as writing down our Morning Pages in The Artist’s Way.)

We can pull out magazine-images of things that inspire us – or even strike our fancy – and put them into a box, or even get fancy and put them into sheet protectors in a three-ring binder, or make a collage.

The weather is going to be beautiful, darlings!

The summer’s heat has been cooling off. The colors are vibrant. The farmer’s markets are showing the best of late-summer harvests; flowers and luscious fruits and veggies.

Why not make a sensual adventure this weekend of going to a farmer’s market, tasting wonderful samples, and bringing home something for a special meal?

Enjoy it either outside (if it’s a sunny, warm day), or set a table for yourself (and perhaps some special others) near a window where you can see the best that early autumn has to offer.


Much love to you, darling, as we learn to bring more pleasure into our lives!


Alay'nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

Alay’nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

To your own health, wealth, success, and overall well-being –

Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.)
Author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey
You are the Jewel in the Heart of the Lotus. Become the Jewel!

Check out Alay’nya’s YouTube Channel
Connect with Alay’nya on Facebook
Follow Unveiling: The Inner Journey on Facebook


Unveiling, by Alay'nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

Unveiling, by Alay’nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

This blog series develops themes originally published in Unveiling: The Inner Journey, published by Mourning Dove Press.

Unveiling currently has twenty 5-star Amazon reviews, and has been recommended by luminaries:

  • Dr. Christiane Northrup – “This book is delightful”
  • Midwest Book Review, in Bethany’s Books – reviews by Susan Bethany – “highly recommended”
  • Nizana al Rassan, writing for (the now out of circulation) iShimmy.com – “a fascinating read with so much wisdom and solid advice.”

 

 


Unveiling, by Alay'nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

Unveiling, by Alay’nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

This blog series develops themes originally published in Unveiling: The Inner Journey, published by Mourning Dove Press.

Unveiling currently has twenty 5-star Amazon reviews, and has been recommended by luminaries:

  • Dr. Christiane Northrup – “This book is delightful”
  • Midwest Book Review, in Bethany’s Books – reviews by Susan Bethany – “highly recommended”
  • Nizana al Rassan, writing for (the now out of circulation) iShimmy.com – “a fascinating read with so much wisdom and solid advice.”

 

 



P.S. What can you read that will help you understand yourself more?

Dr. Stella Resnick

The Pleasure Zone by Dr. Stella Resnick

Paper

Kindle


Unveiling: The Inner Journey

Learn how you can bring more pleasure into your life starting in Part V of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

 

Paper

Kindle

 


Copyright (c) 2013, Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.). All rights reserved.


Related Posts: Hathor – Leading Up to This Point

Related Posts: The High Priestess – and how she relates to Hathor

Related Posts from the Alay’nya Studio Blog: Expressing Your Inner Hathor through movement and dance

The Magical Turning Point – And What It Means for You

Hathor – Goddess of Love, Pleasure, Beauty, Sensuality, and Romance – Emerges This Week!

A water garden soothes our spirit and our senses.

A water garden soothes our spirit and our senses.

Have you been longing to bring more lushness into your life?

Do you desire sensuality, opulence, lusciousness to ooze from your every pore?

Have you been working so hard that your inner self has felt sterile and neglected?

It’s Not You; It’s Your Masculine Power Archetypes

Let’s play – just for a moment – with the notion that there may be something to this archetypal stuff after all.

Four metaphysical elements describe the four seasons of the year.

Four metaphysical elements describe the four seasons of the year.

For the past six months, we’ve been under the dominion of two masculine elemens: Air and Fire.

With the Vernal Equinox, six months ago in March, the element of Air took over in our lives, and ushered in the two most powerful (and power-focused) masculine archetypes: our visionary and creative Magician, and our sustaining and stabilizing Emperor.

These two archetypes can sometimes work in tandem, although they have different agendas. Often, successful businesses are built around a creative Magician/Emperor partnership.

When summer came, the influence of these two archetypes eased, and two new – although still very masculine – archetypes emerged: our inner Green Man and our Hierophant. Our Green Man, coming right after Summer Solstice, embodies our desire to join with nature. It makes sense that he is dominant just then – during the time that we are most likely to schedule vacations.

Professor Dumbledore welcomes students back to the academic year at Hogwarts.

Professor Dumbledore welcomes students back to the academic year at Hogwarts.

Our Hierophant is our “back-to-school” archetype. He’s our Yoda; our Obi-wan Kenobi. He’s our Mr. Miyagi, telling us to “Wax on, wax off.” He’s our internal Professor Dumbledore, welcoming us back for the school year.

Our Hierophant officially emerged at Lammas (August 1st), and will reign through the remainder of this week (through September 21st).

Our Hierophant has one of the most important jobs within our inner psyche.

Yes, he embodies our inner mentor, guru, and guide. He’s the one who helps us take on the necessary self-discipline to master our inner selves. And of course, any time that we mentor someone else, we’re invoking our inner Hierophant.

But there’s one more thing that our Hierophant does.

He both protects and shelters our inner Hathor (who is as delicate and fragile as a newly-budded rose), and he gives her structure and boundaries. He both helps create the play-time for her (and holds the bounds fast against our other archetypes who want to gobble up her time), and yet keeps her from raging into temper tantrums and turning over all the apple carts in sight.

Our Inner Hathor: Wild, Willful, and Wonderful

Hathor (left) welcomes the Egyptian queen Nefertari (right) to the afterlife.

Hathor (left) welcomes the Egyptian queen Nefertari (right) to the afterlife. Image taken from an excellent ‘virtual tour’ of Nefertari’s tomb, led by ‘tour guide’ Professor Peter Schmidt of Swarthmore College.

Our inner Hathor is a lovely creature. And she, herself, is all about love.

But she is a bit on the wild and carefree side.

Just like a precocious teenager, who wants what she wants when she wants it – no matter how good (or how bad) it is for her – our Hathor is willful and bold. She wants her own way.

And way too often, we feel that we have to slight her and shut her down, simply because of survival concerns.

I’m not sure which of these is worse: Our survival-angst (all too often based on all-too-real concerns), or the power-mongering amongst our other (typically Magician/Emperor) core power archetypes that simply want to take our Hathor time – simply because they want it. Because it’s a resource, and they each want every resource that they can get.

This leads to: Power struggles.

The Biggest Power Struggles are Inside Ourselves

Power wars more dominant inside ourselves than they are on any Board of Directors, for any company in the world.

The reason?

Each internal archetype is like a person, all in itself. Each wants what he or she thinks or feels is best. Each wants to set the agenda.

The end result? We have huge internal struggles going on about the basics of our life. Do we spend the weekend on a project that will advance our creative passion or our career (Magician or Emperor), or are we going off camping? (That would be our Green Man, wanting to make a break for freedom.)

The Real Challenge

The real challenge that we face – especially as women – is that our core feminine archetypes are valued less by society than are our masculine ones.

Straightforward, isn’t it?

Masculine roles – involving creative outputs, legendary accomplishments, and forming business empires – are given attention, money, and reward by society.

In contrast, as a culture, we give less attention to the feminine roles of nurturance (Empress), introspection (High Priestess), creating a calm, peaceful and orderly environment (Hestia), and – of course – passion and play (Hathor).

To a very large extent, we’ve each internalized social values.

Add to that, it is often our masculine expression that pays the bills. That is, our masculine roles – more often than not – give us survival. (There are exceptions; some of us make our living through nurturing others; some of us live a life devoted to contemplation and prayer, and some of us are professional housekeepers or are in professional support roles. But these livelihoods – while real – make far less money than do the more masculine-oriented roles.)

The Most Pivotal Time of the Year

We’re now at the time when our Hathor is coming out to play.

For us to successfully create Hathor-time requires (surprise!) the discipline, clarity, and focus of our masculine archetypes – most especially our Hierophant.

We’re going to call on him to create boundaries; boundaries that will protect and cherish and value our inner Hathor.

Think of our Hierophant as a wise old gardener. He sees and loves a truly special rose.

This rose can’t be moved; she is deeply rooted in where she is. She is exquisite, but delicate and fragile.

Our Hierophant protects our Hathor archetype by creating boundaries that give her safe enclosure - her own Secret Garden.

Our Hierophant protects our inner Hathor by creating boundaries that give her safe enclosure – her own . Photo by Eileen Porterfield.

How will he protect her?

He builds a wall around her. He builds her her very own secret garden.

He creates structures to protect her from harsh winds.

He ensures that she’s fed and watered and tended on a regular basis.

For us to cultivate our own inner Hathor, we also have to be our own Hierophant-Gardener. We have to take on creating time, space, and attention for her. We have to give her permission to come out. We have to give her encouragement to flourish and play.

This is one of the most important tasks in our growth as full and complete human beings.

Much love to you, darling, as we enter this season of pleasure together!


Alay'nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

Alay’nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

To your own health, wealth, success, and overall well-being –

Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.)
Author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey
You are the Jewel in the Heart of the Lotus. Become the Jewel!

Check out Alay’nya’s YouTube Channel
Connect with Alay’nya on Facebook
Follow Unveiling: The Inner Journey on Facebook


Unveiling, by Alay'nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

Unveiling, by Alay’nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

This blog series develops themes originally published in Unveiling: The Inner Journey, published by Mourning Dove Press.

Unveiling currently has twenty 5-star Amazon reviews, and has been recommended by luminaries:

  • Dr. Christiane Northrup – “This book is delightful”
  • Midwest Book Review, in Bethany’s Books – reviews by Susan Bethany – “highly recommended”
  • Nizana al Rassan, writing for (the now out of circulation) iShimmy.com – “a fascinating read with so much wisdom and solid advice.”

P.S. What can you read that will help you understand yourself more?

Julie Marie Rahm, America’s Mindset Mechanic

Check out Julie Marie Rahm!

Julie Marie Rahm, America’s Mindset Mechanic and author of Handle Everything: Eight Tools You Need to Live Well and Prosper and also Military Kids Speak (great for parents, teachers, and coaches of military kids) uses a great technique that can help you clear energy blockages, ranging from those from this life through the influence of your ancestral karma. Connect with Julie at info (at) americasmindsetmechanic (dot) com to learn more about how she can help you.

Books by Julie Marie Rahm, America’s Mindset Mechanic

Kindle

Kindle


Julie Marie Rahm, aka America’s Mindset Mechanic on Unveiling: The Inner Journey

What does Julie Rahm, America’s Mindset Mechanic and author of Handle Everything: Eight Tools You Need to Live Well and Prosper have to say about Unveiling: The Inner Journey?

Julie writes:

[In Unveiling: The Inner Journey,] Alay’nya takes readers on an adventure of the body, mind, and spirit from the inside out, strengthening each independently from the other and aligning all three in support of each other. And then, the adventure continues as readers learn how to create the physical environment that supports and reflects the body, mind and spirit, from personal style to the home and office. Each chapter finishes with Personal Pathworking exercises. When readers choose to stop and do the exercises, opportunities for instant positive changes result.

Read this and more reviews of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

 

Paper

Kindle

 


Copyright (c) 2013, Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.). All rights reserved.


Related Posts: Hathor – Leading Up to This Point

Related Posts: HierophantHathor’s Protector

Your Inner Green Man – Gentle Giant or Raging Tyrant?

Your Inner Green Man Has Many Faces: From Gentle Giant to Raging Tyrant

The Green Man - one of our powerful hidden archetypes - emerge from behind the leaves.

The Green Man – one of our powerful hidden archetypes – emerge from behind the leaves. Photo by Simon Garbutt.

Who is your inner Green Man, really?

Is he more than a yearning for nature; as in a desire for vacationing outdoors? Is he more than a craving for late-summer fruits and vegetables?

Is your Green Man more than your growing awareness of how important it is to “go green” in your home and workplace?

Have you even heard him emerge as the voice inside you that says – in the midst of some high-falutin’ corporate presentation – This is all so silly!

We know that our inner Green Man is one of our oldest cultural archetypes; his imagery shows up in many old English churches – along with images of other pre-Christian symbols. He comes to us from across our ancient European cultures, and shows up as the god Pan in Greek mythology. In short, the Green Man has been with us for a very long time.

But how does our Green Man show up in our recent mythology – that is, in the way that we tell ourselves our deep stories?

This is important, because for each of us, our Green Man is a part of who we are. He is one of our eight core archetypes, identified by Carl Jung (as a condensed version of the sixteen core archetypes that form his Psychological Types). The more that we understand each of our eight core archetypes, the more that we understand (and can intelligently manage) ourselves.

Let’s have a look – into realms from fairy tales to commercials to the heroic myths created in our movies.

The Green Man Is … the Jolly Green Giant!

The Jolly Green Giant - a magnificent current embodiment of the Green Man archetype.

The Jolly Green Giant – a magnificent current embodiment of the Green Man archetype.

Who says “Ho, ho, ho” and is NOT Santa Claus?

One of the first Green Man images that comes to mind – for those of us of a certain age – is no less than the Jolly Green Giant – personified and made eponymous by the Green Giant food company. To this day, canned peas and the Jolly Green Giant are forever linked in my memory.

This Jolly Green Giant incarnation is a positive aspect of the Green Man; one who is genial and outgoing, and who fosters lush growth in fields and gardens.

However, our Green Man also has a dark side.

The Green Man Has a Dark Side

The Giant from the fairytale 'Jack and the Beanstalk' and the even more recent movie Jack the Giant Slayer.

The Giant from the fairytale ‘Jack and the Beanstalk’ and the even more recent movie Jack the Giant Slayer.

In the fairy tale Jack and the Beanstalk, young hero Jack climbs up a giant beanstalk to encounter – and ultimately defeat – a vengeful giant; the one who says “Fee fi fo fum!” This is a mean giant; a Green Man who has gone over to the “dark side.”

Those of you who are interested in deeper interpretations might visit Lectures at Califia on Folklore by Marjorie C. Luesebrink, with a good Jungian overview.

I’ve found Neil Leyden’s piece on The Seven Basic Story Plots very interesting, citing Christopher Booker in his book The Seven Basic Plots. Also, Jeff Cook wrote an excellent essay on Jack’s Quest for Maturity about the Jack and the Beanstalk story. All of these interpret the Giant as a vengeful father-figure, whom Jack must defeat in order to gain maturity.

It’s true; the Green Man’s “dark side” can represent a raging father figure; a tyrant whom we must overcome in our quest for maturity and self-reliance. However, when we deal with the Green Man’s more positive aspect, we can integrate him instead of defeating him.

One of the important things that is starting to emerge here is that our Green Man represents our wild side. He is the only archetype (among our eight core archetypes) to be this associated with wildness and with nature.

Our Green Man Uses Feelings and Actions – Not Words – to Communicate

Our Green Man is not particularly verbal. From the Jungian perspective, he can be Extroverted (Jolly Green Giant) or Introverted (the quiet Green Man of the Woods). Whether introverted or extroverted, we know that he is Sensing, rather than Intuitive. He relies on what his senses – and his immediate experience – tell him. His truth comes from what he sees, what he hears, and what he touches and senses under his feet as he walks through the woods.

It’s not that our Green Man can’t form intuitive connections. Rather, his reality is grounded in his direct and pragmatic experience.

Eight core archetypes octant chart showing archetype correlations with Jungian Psychological Types.

Eight core archetypes octant chart showing archetype correlations with Jungian Psychological Types.

In the octant graph above, our Green Man shows up in the lower left. He is a masculine (Jungian Psychological Types Judging) archetype (all the ones on the lower half are masculine). He is a Feeling archetype. (All the archetypes on the left-hand-side are Feeling; those on the right are Thinking.) He is also a Sensing archetype; you’ll see that in the octant graph, Sensing archetypes alternate with Intuiting.

Our Green Man is Feeling, rather than Thinking. He doesn’t need abstract thoughts. He gets his reality from his feelings; from observing and interacting with people, animals, plants, and his surrounding world – not with thoughts about this world.

Finally, our Green Man is a masculine archetype, and so is more Judging than Perceiving. That means, despite being oriented towards the expansive feeling of the great outdoors, he is likely to want to do something rather than simply be aware of potentials and possibilities. He’s action-oriented, and inclined to do things that bring about concrete, tangible results – even if the “result” is only to see the view from the top of the next hill!

Hagrid in the Harry Potter Series – the World’s Most Famous Green Man

Rubeus Hagrid, from the Harry Potter book series, is the world's most famous Green Man.

Rubeus Hagrid, from the Harry Potter book series, is the world’s most famous Green Man.

Perhaps the best – and most well-known – Green Man character portrayal in the entire world is Rubeus Hagrid from the various Harry Potter books.

Hagrid certainly gives us a great insight into the Green Man’s character and day-to-day life!

In Hagrid, we see some exemplary Green Man characteristics:

  • This Green Man lives apart from others, and his home is more situated in nature – even though Hagrid, as the Gamekeeper, is an integral part of the Hogwarts School and wizardly community, he lives apart from the others in a separate (and more rustic) home – he prefers the woods to stone walls, and is comfortable venturing into the Dark Forest,
  • He leads with his heart – not with his mind – true to being a Feeling-type, Hagrid follows his heart – first, last, and always,
  • As a prototypical Green Man, Hagrid love animals – the stranger the better – who else but Hagrid would introduce Buckbeak (the Hippogriff), as well as Fang (the Boarhound), Fluffy (a giant three-headed dog), Norberta (a Norwegian Ridgeback dragon), and many others,
  • As with all Green Men, Hagrid is a giant – he is exuberant and “larger than life,” and
  • Hagrid is fiercely and unquestioningly loyal to those whom he loves.

With this kind of character, don’t we all need a Hagrid in our lives?

Hodor is a Green Man

In the Game of Thrones, Hodor is a loyal and devoted Green Man figure.

In the Game of Thrones, Hodor is a loyal and devoted Green Man figure.

The character Hodor, whom we meet in the first book, A Game of Thrones, in George Martin’s epic series Song of Ice and Fire, is a beautiful Green Man in current mythology.

Since we’ve just done a mini-Jungian analysis of the Green Man archetype, we can understand Hodor – and thus our own inner Green Man – more completely.

Hodor is not particularly verbal. In fact, he can say only one word – his own name.

This makes sense from the Jungian analysis; he is Sensing – not Intuiting. He is Feeling, not Thinking. His reality is his surrounding world, not thoughts about his world.

Just as with Hagrid in the Harry Potter book series, in Hodor we continue to see our Green Man’s extreme loyalty to those whom he loves. Hodor is unquestioningly loyal and devoted. In particular, he protects the physically disabled Bran, and carries him about from place to place.

In this, we have a perfect Jungian pairing: Bran is highly Intuitive. In fact, Bran’s calling is to enter the shapeshifter’s world ; he begins his own series of shamanic journeys. This is the “far side” of being Intuitive. Practically speaking, since he is crippled, Bran needs to be paired with someone who lives in the physical world in order to get around. That becomes Hodor’s job.

Bran is Intuitive and Thinking. Hodor is Sensing and Feeling. Hodor is totally devoted to Bran. Working together, they make a great team.

This gives us a clue about how we do our own integration. We do need to access our own Green Man; we can’t constantly neglect and ignore him.

Practically, this means that – even if we are immersed in a creative project or in building our empire – we must occasionally break for a walk in the woods. We need to spend time refreshing ourselves with nature. We need to pay attention to the way in which we are living on the planet. This is what will “carry us” through our creative and empire-building challenges.

In terms of our daily life: if we give even modest attention to our inner Green Man, he is there for us when we need him. And when times are hard, he’ll see us through. We can count on him to protect and serve.

His exuberance will lighten spirit. His willingness to pick up our heavy load will lighten our passage.

The Ents in Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings – Our Green Man Aids Us in Battle

Treebeard, an Ent featured in Tolkien's book the War of the Ring, is a Green Man figure.

Treebeard, an Ent featured in Tolkien’s book the War of the Ring, is a Green Man figure.

Who could be more of a Green Man than the Ent Treebeard?

Ents, from Tolkein’s books The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings saga, are prototypical Green Men. Once again, we can learn a lot about the Green Man aspect of ourselves by looking at the Ents, as well as the Huorn (Ents who have become more “treelike”).

As we become more attuned with nature, we feel more of a kinship with the Huorn, as described by Inga Simpson.

As Inga writes:

The Huorn are ancient, primeval, old growth; they remember a time when trees ruled Middlearth, before the awakening of elves and the rise of men. The Huorn are still angry at the impact of men and elves and dwarves and orcs on their world, harbouring resentments across the ages. Elves, it seems to me, should be welcome among trees; their only fault was a kinship to men. But I am not a tree.

When the Ents and the Huorn come to the aid of Aragorn in the Lord of the Rings saga, The Two Towers (Book Three), we see their terrible power unleashed against the Orcs.

This is a powerful lesson for us.

In a later post, I’ll do a more complete analysis of our core archetypes in The Lord of the Rings. For now, it suffices to say that this is a story of integration as well as a major Heroic Journey, on the part of both Frodo and Aragorn.

It is Aragorn who calls together all aspects of who he is as he confronts forces that seem much greater than himself and his allies. When Aragorn draws on the power of the Ents, he unleashes a fierce and primal force; devastating the evil Orcs.

There are times in our own lives when we need to thow everything that we have, and everything that we can draw upon, into some noble cause. It is at this time that we draw fully on our own primal reserves. We pull from that aspect of ourselves that which can be fierce in battle. This is a time for unleashing our full power; not for the restraint of civilized niceties.

We do not recognize this force-within-ourselves during our day-to-day lives. It lies in our deep reserve. This power has a “voice” that takes much time and patience to discern. However, if we have previously made connection (as Aragorn did with Treebeard), then we can tap this huge reserve when needed.


Alay'nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

Alay’nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

To your own health, wealth, success, and overall well-being –

Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.)
Author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey
You are the Jewel in the Heart of the Lotus. Become the Jewel!

Check out Alay’nya’s YouTube Channel
Connect with Alay’nya on Facebook
Follow Unveiling: The Inner Journey on Facebook


A Portable Identity, by Debra Bryson and Charise Hoge – for Those of Us Doing both an External and Inner Journey!

Charise Hoge, dancer, counselor, and co-author of A Portable Identity.

Charise Hoge, dancer, counselor, and co-author of A Portable Identity.

Unveiing is about the Inner Journey; Charise Hoge, MSW, has written an excellent book about what happens when we take a literal journey to a far-off land – and how it can trigger huge personal growth.

A Portable Identity, available from Amazon in both trade paper and Kindle forms, is for anyone who will be moving abroad, or who will even be undertaking a big life transition. Whether the life-change is a divorce, leaving a corporate job to start life as an entrepreneur, leaving a life of military service to start a new civilian job, or even the children leaving home, this is an important and useful book, with helpful guided exercises throughout.

Both Cherise and co-author Debra Bryson share deeply of their personal stories, as they evolved during their years abroad. From the initial point of departure, with their thoughts of how they would each “handle” their new lives abroad, to the challenges, stumbles, and eventual victories, their stories are not only their own; they are every woman’s.

As we read A Portable Identity, it doesn’t matter whether or not we have ever physically lived abroad – we all undertake similarly disruptive life-journeys that ultimately shape us into deeper and wiser beings. A Portable Identity, by Debra Bryson and Charise Hoge, is a valuable companion to the inner growth that happens when we make a shift in our external world.

Paper

Kindle


Unveiling, by Alay'nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

Unveiling, by Alay’nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

This blog series develops themes originally published in Unveiling: The Inner Journey, published by Mourning Dove Press.

Unveiling currently has twenty 5-star Amazon reviews, and has been recommended by luminaries:

  • Dr. Christiane Northrup – “This book is delightful”
  • Midwest Book Review, in Bethany’s Books – reviews by Susan Bethany – “highly recommended”
  • Nizana al Rassan, writing for (the now out of circulation) iShimmy.com – “a fascinating read with so much wisdom and solid advice.”

Cherise Hoge, Co-Author of A Portable Identity, on Unveiling: The Inner Journey

What does Charise Hoge, co-author of A Portable Identity as well being a counselor and dancer, have to say about Unveiling: The Inner Journey?

From Charise Hoge’s Amazon review of Unveiling:

Alay’nya achieves something vitally important with her intimate writing style — she invites you to look within yourself and take responsibility for how your life is going. For me, the book was experiential – as I read “shift state”, I shifted state, I tapped into how this feels internally. When I read about “softening” and “allow[ing] the veil to drop,” I connected with this precious vulnerability. When I read about going into the underworld of my psyche to attend to any woundedness there, I felt encouraged, willing. There are also tips and exercises at the close of each chapter to be proactive with your discoveries, but the book as a whole is transformative. It has an energetic charge that only a writer proficient in movement arts can convey! Take the invitation to go on the inner journey, this book will carry you safely there.

Read this and more reviews of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

 

Paper

Kindle

 


Copyright (c) 2013, Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.). All rights reserved.


Related Posts: Green Man – Leading Up to This Point

When Your Inner “Green Man” Breaks from Cover

Spotting Your Wild Inner Green Man – How to Tell When He’s about to Bust Loose

Your inner Green Man - how do you know that he's breaking from cover?

Your inner Green Man
how do you know that he’s breaking from cover?

An inner Green Man lurks inside each of us.

Usually, he (or she – think Women Who Run with the Wolves) is firmly contained; pushed below our mind’s conscious surface by survival and pragmatics-dominant thinking; our daily focus is often on jobs and responsibilities.

However, we can only live like this for so long. Every so often, our inner Green Man gets ready to break loose.

How do you spot – and even nurture and protect and cherish – your wild and elusive inner Green Man?

Detecting Your Inner Green Man – A Quick Questionnaire

See if you’re having uncontrollable cravings for any of the following:

  1. An eco-adventure, white water rafting, or even a weekend camping trip – anything to break up your daily pattern,
  2. Planning or planting your garden, going on a garden tour, or visiting one of the great gardens – a strong need to connect with nature and to grow green things; this would include planting a container garden for an apartment balcony, or even bringing in a plant for your desk,
  3. Visiting your local farmer’s market – even choosing to shop in a food store that has the best layout of fresh fruits and veggies; feeling nurtured and inspired just being around fresh produce and flowers,
  4. A sudden interest in making salads, experimenting with sprouts, raw foods or juicing, or finding locally-foraged foods – becoming more aware of how much your body and spirit are nurtured with the freshest of live food sources, or
  5. Finding the absurd in corporate protocols or social mores – and being irresistibly drawn to knocking over a few apple-carts.

Your Inner Green Man – Essential to Your Happiness and Well-Being

Our Green Man archetype is usually hidden within our known, safe structures - such as our churches and other formal belief systems.

Our Green Man archetype is usually hidden within our known, safe structures – such as our churches and other formal belief systems.

Our inner Green Man – like our inner Hestia – is one of our two rest-and-recharge archetypes. Neither our Green Man nor our Hestia is a core power archetype – I reserve that designation for the six archetypes that are included in the first great life journey identified in the Kabbalah and visually depicted as Cards I – VI in the Tarot’s Major Arcana.

However, just as our Hestia brings a sense of calmness, structure, and order to our lives, our Green Man serves an equally important role – he brings a vibrant, exciting, and necessary exuberance, wildness, and chaos.

When our lives get too static, boring, or predictable – or when we’re living under a self-imposed regime that is truly untenable – our Green Man comes to our rescue!

His innocent enthusiasm, exuberance, and zest for all that is living and growing freely help us break out from self-imposed expectations, boundaries, and commitments. When we truly need to “think outside the box,” our Green Man is our strongest ally.

Our Green Man Is Our Inner Wild Child

Our Green Man may have us zipping through a tree canopy.

Our Green Man may have us zipping through a tree canopy.

Our Green Man takes us out of our known, safe, familiar structures and environments. He takes us on the wild-and-crazy ride through nature.

Our Green Man may lead us to something dramatic and adventurous – something that gets our adrenaline pounding, such as white water rafting or zipping through the tree canopy.

If we are of a calmer nature, our Green Man may take us on a garden tour, or spark our own interest in gardening.

Our Green Man Can Emerge Any Time

Whenever we bring more of nature into our lives, our Green Man is speaking to us and through us.

We’re used to seeing our Green Man emerge when we plan our summer vacation – especially if that vacation involves being outdoors.

Our Green Man inspires us to use nature as we place seasonal decorations around our homes.

Our Green Man inspires us to use nature as we place seasonal decorations around our homes, such as a mantlepiece filled with evergreen boughs.

However, our Green Man comes in every time we do something that has us touching nature.

He can show up when we arrange a cornucopia of harvest vegetables for our Thanksgiving centerpiece.

He emerges when we select the Christmas tree, or decorate our mantles with a luxuriant arrangement of holly and evergreens.

 

Our fascination with growing foliage plants, flowers, and vegetables is part of our inner Green Man.

Our fascination with growing foliage plants, flowers, and vegetables is part of our inner Green Man.

Our Green Man silently creeps in as we voraciously consume the seed catalogs that arrive in dark winter, or as we plan our spring gardens.

If we can’t take a full vacation, our Green Man leads us to the farmer’s market to pick out the best of the seasonal produce. He may have us signing up with a community-supported agriculture program.

Nurturing Our Green Man Is a Way to Take Care of Inner Self

Our Green Man is often hidden, and we need to be carefully attentive to discern him.

Our Green Man is often hidden in our lives, just as a Green Man image in an old English church would often be hidden behind a sward of greenery. (The instance to the left is of a Green Man in the Rosslyn Chapel.)

Our society tends to push our Green Man further into the background. We all too often live in situations where “time off” (for either sickness or health) is meted out in hours, and is carefully accrued and spent. Although we have many conveniences in our lives, we also have huge time-depleting factors, ranging from commute traffic to the allure of social media.

Most of all, we are rewarded (or at least made to feel semi-secure) when we play by the rules. We often feel that our very survival is threatened if we step out of bounds; when we dare to think (much less speak) for ourselves.

Is it any wonder that a part of us feels hugely squelched and repressed? This is the part that we need, in order to feel vital and alive.

Thus, when our Green Man emerges, he is making his way upwards through a hugely repressive layer of conditioning.

He emerges at such a cost to our feeling of safety-and-survival that – when he does come forth – we need to give him attention.

Caring for, giving permission to, and nurturing our inner Green Man will be the subject of the next posting on this blog.


Alay'nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

Alay’nya, author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

To your own health, wealth, success, and overall well-being –

Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.)
Author of Unveiling: The Inner Journey
You are the Jewel in the Heart of the Lotus. Become the Jewel!

Check out Alay’nya’s YouTube Channel
Connect with Alay’nya on Facebook
Follow Unveiling: The Inner Journey on Facebook


Unveiling, by Alay'nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

Unveiling, by Alay’nya, currently has an overall five-star Amazon rating.

This blog series develops themes originally published in Unveiling: The Inner Journey, published by Mourning Dove Press.


Unveiling: The Inner Journey Is “Highly Recommended” – Midwest Book Review

We are the stars of our own lives, and it’s time we started acting as such. Unveiling: The Inner Journey is an empowering memoir from Alianna J. Maren as she advises readers, in particular, women, to take control of their lives, guide to something worth unveiling to the world and allow ourselves to be pleased with our place in the world. Unveiling is a strong addition to general inspiration collections tailored to women, highly recommended. From Bethany’s Bookshelf, Midwest Book Review

Read this and more reviews of Unveiling: The Inner Journey.

 

Paper

Kindle

 


Copyright (c) 2013, Alay’nya (Alianna J. Maren, Ph.D.). All rights reserved.


Related Posts: Green Man – Leading Up to This Point

Related Posts: Green Man – What to Read after This One

Related Posts: Hestia (Our Other Rest-and-Recharge Archetype)

Related Posts: Archetype Overview – The Eight Major Archetypes (including the Six Core Power Archetypes)